so i thought that fixed it, but then it went right back to step 4.
i realized that when they were saying press the button on the remote, that the button on the hdmi plug was actually what needed to be pressed.
i pressed it, and it automatically sync'd the remote and i got through the set up in less than 5 minutes after that.
so, try doing what they say but pressing the reset button on the hdmi plug where it says depress the pairing button.
;o)