When it says on the home screen it's not connected it's not referring to the remote, not connected means internet is not setup. What is model of express, is it the 3700? Which cannot be paired with wifi Roku remote. Only remotes to control that model are IR remotes. Either Roku IR remote or aftermarket IR universal with Roku code. Any other express model can be paired to a wifi Roku remote.
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